Men Don't Talk Less Than Women
Men and Women Say the Same Amount of Words Daily, Study Shows
By Miranda Hitti WebMD Medical News
Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD
July 6, 2007 -- There's new buzz about how much women and men talk -- and if you're picturing Chatty Cathy and Silent Steve, think again.
Both sexes say the same amount of words -- about 16,000 per day -- a new study shows.
The study, published in today's issue of the journal Science, included nearly 400 undergraduate students -- 210 women and 186 men.
Each student wore a device called an electronically activated recorder (EAR) during their waking hours.
The device quietly recorded the students' words for 30 seconds at a time, every 12 minutes or so. But the students didn't know when the recorder was on. They were told it recorded at random times.
The researchers included Matthias Mehl, PhD, assistant professor at the University of Arizona's psychology department. They padded the recorder so students couldn't sense when it was on.
They transcribed the students' tapes and then estimated how many words the students said daily, based on 17 waking hours per day.
Men Talk, Women Talk
"The data suggest that women spoke on average 16,215 words and men 15,669 words" per day, the researchers write.
But that difference of 546 words isn't exactly carved in stone. In fact, it's so small that the researchers say it could have been due to chance.
"Thus, the data fail to reveal a reliable sex difference in daily word use," write the researchers, who call the chat count a "lexical budget."
Some students were chattier than others.
For instance, one of the most talkative men uttered 47,000 words per day, while the quietest guy barely spoke 500 words, Mehl notes in a University of Arizona news release.
Most of the students were studying psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. That's where Mehl worked on the study as a graduate student.
The study also included about 100 students from the Autonomous University of Nuevo Leon in Monterrey, Mexico.
The sound clips were gathered in six groups of students from 1998 to 2004. Women didn't substantially outtalk men in any of those groups.
The researchers conclude that even though they only studied college students, "the widespread and highly publicized stereotype about female talkativeness is unfounded."
Guys, what do you think? Tell us on WebMD's Men’s Health: Man to Man board. Ladies, chime in on WebMD's Women’s Health Friends Talking board. Then, pop in and see what the opposite sex has to say!
SOURCES: Mehl, M. Science, July 6, 2007; vol 317: p 82. News release, University of Arizona.
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Soulmate vs. Playmate
The following are not my words but i thought they were so true so I wanted to share.
In our quest for happiness we must be sure that we don't settle for aPlaymate when God has a Soul mate waiting for us. Sometimes this is ahard distinction to make. Playmates are tricky. They are so much fun tobe with that even the smartest of us will be fooled into thinking thishas to be our Soul mate. Worse yet too many of us attempt to make a Soulmate out of a Playmate.
The danger of this is that later, after years of playing, we will meetour Soul mate, but it may be too late. We may have already made a Lifemate of our Playmate and created life-long bonds (emotional, children,> etc.).Alternatively, we may have been hurt from playing so hard that we are in no shape ourselves to be any one's anything. How can we distinguish between the One, and just another one? First, we must be open with ourselves about who we really are and what our soul yearns for. Only you and God know what is truly in your heart and mind.Only you know what will make you truly happy and whole. In order to find your Soul mate you have to know you, first. You must be willing to listen to that inner voice. Moreover, is that voice telling you that the nerdy person you enjoy talking and sharing your thoughts with, could be him? What about that friend who is always willing to go the extra mile for you when no one else will.Oh no! He's too short or too tall, balding or too hairy, and on and on?Just too ordinary looking for me Then there's that girl who makes you feel so special when you're around her, but she doesn't match that ideal you have conjured in your head.She's too tall, not slender enough, not light or dark enough, not shapely enough, not attractive enough, and on and on. She just couldn't be for me! Therefore, what if he or she doesn't look like Shemar Moore or Vivica Fox. Is he or she going to treat you like the jewel that you are?Not only that, his or her soul and yours will commune in ways you never imagined possible! In order to heed that voice, we have to put on the back burner our own superficial thinking. Could it be that your inner desire is for a truly genuine person with a good heart? If you enjoy playing, stay on the playground. There are plenty of Playmates out thereto occupy your time. Nevertheless, don't spend too much time playing or you may play your life away. Eventually the playing loses it appeal and your soul begins to crave a deeper, more meaningful connection. Your soul begins to crave your Soul mate.Never make someone a priority when all you are to him or her is an Option.
AMEN
"The measure of a man is how well he takes care of his children"Sidney Poitier
In our quest for happiness we must be sure that we don't settle for aPlaymate when God has a Soul mate waiting for us. Sometimes this is ahard distinction to make. Playmates are tricky. They are so much fun tobe with that even the smartest of us will be fooled into thinking thishas to be our Soul mate. Worse yet too many of us attempt to make a Soulmate out of a Playmate.
The danger of this is that later, after years of playing, we will meetour Soul mate, but it may be too late. We may have already made a Lifemate of our Playmate and created life-long bonds (emotional, children,> etc.).Alternatively, we may have been hurt from playing so hard that we are in no shape ourselves to be any one's anything. How can we distinguish between the One, and just another one? First, we must be open with ourselves about who we really are and what our soul yearns for. Only you and God know what is truly in your heart and mind.Only you know what will make you truly happy and whole. In order to find your Soul mate you have to know you, first. You must be willing to listen to that inner voice. Moreover, is that voice telling you that the nerdy person you enjoy talking and sharing your thoughts with, could be him? What about that friend who is always willing to go the extra mile for you when no one else will.Oh no! He's too short or too tall, balding or too hairy, and on and on?Just too ordinary looking for me Then there's that girl who makes you feel so special when you're around her, but she doesn't match that ideal you have conjured in your head.She's too tall, not slender enough, not light or dark enough, not shapely enough, not attractive enough, and on and on. She just couldn't be for me! Therefore, what if he or she doesn't look like Shemar Moore or Vivica Fox. Is he or she going to treat you like the jewel that you are?Not only that, his or her soul and yours will commune in ways you never imagined possible! In order to heed that voice, we have to put on the back burner our own superficial thinking. Could it be that your inner desire is for a truly genuine person with a good heart? If you enjoy playing, stay on the playground. There are plenty of Playmates out thereto occupy your time. Nevertheless, don't spend too much time playing or you may play your life away. Eventually the playing loses it appeal and your soul begins to crave a deeper, more meaningful connection. Your soul begins to crave your Soul mate.Never make someone a priority when all you are to him or her is an Option.
AMEN
"The measure of a man is how well he takes care of his children"Sidney Poitier
Sunday, July 22, 2007
Military Issue
The following story appeared in the news on Thursday, July 19: My comments will follow.
The Bronx soldier accused of hiring a hit man to shoot him in the leg so he could get out of returning to Iraq has been ordered back to his military base - and could face stiff punishment.
"I'm scared s---less," Jonathan Aponte, 20, said after testifying in front of a Bronx grand jury yesterday and learning he is to report to his commanders by midnight tonight.
"I don't know if I'm going back to Iraq or not, but I don't want to," he said.
His wife suggested, and he agreed, that they hire someone to shoot him on the streets of New York in the hopes he would avoid his six-month return tour to the war zone, prosecutors said.
"I just didn't want to go back," he said, shaking with emotion as he stood on crutches. The G.I. was on a two-week leave in the Bronx after serving 10 months in Iraq when the couple allegedly hatched the scheme.
"I feel like I can't handle it mentally after everything I saw," he told the Daily News with tears in his eyes. "I've had friends die in my arms and I've seen things most men my age will never see."
On July 9, the day he was to report to duty, Aponte was shot once in the leg at the corner of Bronx Blvd. and E. Gun Hill Road by Felix Padilla, cops said.
While they were being grilled by cops, the newlywed couple's story began to unravel.
Aponte, his wife, Alexandra Gonzalez, 22, and Padilla were arrested and charged in the conspiracy. All face serious jail time if the Bronx district attorney prosecutes the case.
But military law experts said it is more likely that the Army will take over Aponte's case - opening the door for a possible court-martial and jail time.
William Holmes, a former Marine Corps defense attorney, said it is also possible Aponte will be given some psychological counseling and discharged.
But "the Army may take the attitude that they can't show any tolerance for this kind of behavior," said Holmes, now a private attorney based in Virginia.
Aponte could also be charged with malingering - inflicting injury on himself to get out of duty. That charge alone carries a penalty of up to 10 years in a military jail and a dishonorable discharge.
Another possibility is that the traumatized soldier will be disciplined by his commanding officer. He could lose a month's pay or be stripped of a stripe or be given extra duties, Holmes said.
That punishment can also include being redeployed - for Aponte, the worst result.
"I still have nightmares and smell burning flesh in my dreams," he said. "I was home for the Fourth of July and had to wear earplugs because the sounds reminded me of explosions in Iraq."
His family and lawyer say the G.I. is suffering from post traumatic stress disorder.
"I want Jonathan to get the treatment he needs to make him a whole person once again," said his attorney Marty Goldberg
Do we seriously want to send someone who is this adamant not to return to war, enough to hire someone to shoot him, back to Iraq? Does this make the best sense? I am not judging the guy for what he did. I actually sympathize with him. He doesn’t want to go back. He is scared. He is most likely suffering from post traumatic stress disorder. He doesn’t want to die out there. He misses his family. And exactly why is he out there? Yes I know he took an oath to protect his country. Blah, Blah, Blah. I took that same oath at some point in my life. I took the oath to protect my country but are we out there protecting the good ole U.S. of A??? Can someone be truthful enough to explain why is HE out there? Why are WE there??? I am sure the motivational speech includes something about being proud to be American. It includes something about fighting for your country. It includes something about fighting for freedom, rights, and justice for all. Whatever! Can someone tell me why we are out there again? Was it 9/11? Was it GW avenging his father? Is it Al-Qaeda? Is it Saddam? Well it cant be Saddam because we got him already. Was it the guys on the cards? I think we got most of them too. Is there a new list of people that are being made up as we go along? Is it to free the country of its oppressors? OIL??? Why? Can someone remind me why we are there?
Does it do anyone any good to send him back besides sending a message that this sort of behavior will not be tolerated? If I were out there fighting in the trenches, I wouldn’t want anyone unstable watching my back. I say keep him here. Get him the medical help necessary and then discharge him. Relieve him of his duties and responsibilities. It would serve no purpose to put him in jail.
The Bronx soldier accused of hiring a hit man to shoot him in the leg so he could get out of returning to Iraq has been ordered back to his military base - and could face stiff punishment.
"I'm scared s---less," Jonathan Aponte, 20, said after testifying in front of a Bronx grand jury yesterday and learning he is to report to his commanders by midnight tonight.
"I don't know if I'm going back to Iraq or not, but I don't want to," he said.
His wife suggested, and he agreed, that they hire someone to shoot him on the streets of New York in the hopes he would avoid his six-month return tour to the war zone, prosecutors said.
"I just didn't want to go back," he said, shaking with emotion as he stood on crutches. The G.I. was on a two-week leave in the Bronx after serving 10 months in Iraq when the couple allegedly hatched the scheme.
"I feel like I can't handle it mentally after everything I saw," he told the Daily News with tears in his eyes. "I've had friends die in my arms and I've seen things most men my age will never see."
On July 9, the day he was to report to duty, Aponte was shot once in the leg at the corner of Bronx Blvd. and E. Gun Hill Road by Felix Padilla, cops said.
While they were being grilled by cops, the newlywed couple's story began to unravel.
Aponte, his wife, Alexandra Gonzalez, 22, and Padilla were arrested and charged in the conspiracy. All face serious jail time if the Bronx district attorney prosecutes the case.
But military law experts said it is more likely that the Army will take over Aponte's case - opening the door for a possible court-martial and jail time.
William Holmes, a former Marine Corps defense attorney, said it is also possible Aponte will be given some psychological counseling and discharged.
But "the Army may take the attitude that they can't show any tolerance for this kind of behavior," said Holmes, now a private attorney based in Virginia.
Aponte could also be charged with malingering - inflicting injury on himself to get out of duty. That charge alone carries a penalty of up to 10 years in a military jail and a dishonorable discharge.
Another possibility is that the traumatized soldier will be disciplined by his commanding officer. He could lose a month's pay or be stripped of a stripe or be given extra duties, Holmes said.
That punishment can also include being redeployed - for Aponte, the worst result.
"I still have nightmares and smell burning flesh in my dreams," he said. "I was home for the Fourth of July and had to wear earplugs because the sounds reminded me of explosions in Iraq."
His family and lawyer say the G.I. is suffering from post traumatic stress disorder.
"I want Jonathan to get the treatment he needs to make him a whole person once again," said his attorney Marty Goldberg
Do we seriously want to send someone who is this adamant not to return to war, enough to hire someone to shoot him, back to Iraq? Does this make the best sense? I am not judging the guy for what he did. I actually sympathize with him. He doesn’t want to go back. He is scared. He is most likely suffering from post traumatic stress disorder. He doesn’t want to die out there. He misses his family. And exactly why is he out there? Yes I know he took an oath to protect his country. Blah, Blah, Blah. I took that same oath at some point in my life. I took the oath to protect my country but are we out there protecting the good ole U.S. of A??? Can someone be truthful enough to explain why is HE out there? Why are WE there??? I am sure the motivational speech includes something about being proud to be American. It includes something about fighting for your country. It includes something about fighting for freedom, rights, and justice for all. Whatever! Can someone tell me why we are out there again? Was it 9/11? Was it GW avenging his father? Is it Al-Qaeda? Is it Saddam? Well it cant be Saddam because we got him already. Was it the guys on the cards? I think we got most of them too. Is there a new list of people that are being made up as we go along? Is it to free the country of its oppressors? OIL??? Why? Can someone remind me why we are there?
Does it do anyone any good to send him back besides sending a message that this sort of behavior will not be tolerated? If I were out there fighting in the trenches, I wouldn’t want anyone unstable watching my back. I say keep him here. Get him the medical help necessary and then discharge him. Relieve him of his duties and responsibilities. It would serve no purpose to put him in jail.
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
Pretty Hot And Tempting
Today’s hot topic on the Spanish radio was about younger females and men being tempted by them. Namely, there was a caller who was calling about his stepdaughter. He said that at 13, she had a “tremendo cuerpazo” meaning that she had the body of a 16 – 18 year old, and that she was very sexy. He also said that she wore thongs around the house, which is another blog in itself. Shame on her mother for not teaching her daughter to dress appropriate in front of the step-father or any man in the house for that matter. I dont care if its Tio, Cousin, Abuelo, who ever. To me there are certain rules when you live in the house with men who may or may not be relatives.
1. Don’t come out of the shower with just a towel.
2. Definitely don’t come out of the shower with less than a towel.
3. Be dressed appropriately at all times meaning NO walking around the house in panties, bras, thongs, lingerie.
4. Sit with your legs closed especially if your wearing a skirt.
5. It’s MY HOUSE and if you want to do any of the above GRADUATE and MOVE the F*CK OUT.
Back to the caller: He went on to say that he had thoughts about his step daughter and that she turned him on. He had only been in the house, part of the family for 4 to 5 years. Now this might make you sick, as it does me, but the truth of the matter is that he was being honest. And more truth to this—these things do happen. I for one know of a cousin who was molested by her “step-father”. Unfortunately her mother, didn’t believe her and she eventually left the house and turned to crack. Which is another blog in itself because as mothers we must, must, must ALWAYS put our children before ALL others, and if there is a potentially dangerous situation, then we must be reactive. I also have a neighbor who frequents strip clubs looking for girls who remind him of his stepdaughter because she is driving him mad with desire. He says his “step-daughter” is so tempting. And he talks about his lust for her with other guys. You won't believe this sicko "step-father" is a former cop. And what to say about the unsuspecting wife. Is it she blind or is it that she doesn't want to see?
Again its all so unfortunate and disgusting but these things do happen. I feel blessed because I don’t have any daughters and don’t have to worry about this. But I do have nieces, 2 of them live in the house without a man (thank GOD) but there may come a time when they do, 1 of them lives with her biological father, 1 of them lives with a creepy “step-grandfather” which I will save for another blog because her grandmother allows him to spank her, and 1 of them is grown (or at least she thinks so—I will always think she is too young) and she lives with her man. So while the worry is not in my home. I still have the worry about 3 of them. Personally for me, I could not live with a man if I had daughters. I would be to freaked out/ creeped out/paranoid by what could happen. So for me that would not work. Trying to merge a family when the boys were teen and preteen was hard enough with all the testorone in the house but that story is for another blog. But to all mothers—you need to be aware of this danger. And of course I am not saying that ALL men are like the caller and my neighbor—who have sexual thoughts and desires but only lust and fantasize, and I am not saying that ALL men are like my cousin’s “step-father—giving in to fantasies and desires and then molesting and raping her, But what I am saying is that there are varying degrees of men out there and mothers need to WATCH your daughters. It is a cruel, cruel world out there. WATCH YOUR DAUGHTERS!!!!! Better to be save than sorry.
1. Don’t come out of the shower with just a towel.
2. Definitely don’t come out of the shower with less than a towel.
3. Be dressed appropriately at all times meaning NO walking around the house in panties, bras, thongs, lingerie.
4. Sit with your legs closed especially if your wearing a skirt.
5. It’s MY HOUSE and if you want to do any of the above GRADUATE and MOVE the F*CK OUT.
Back to the caller: He went on to say that he had thoughts about his step daughter and that she turned him on. He had only been in the house, part of the family for 4 to 5 years. Now this might make you sick, as it does me, but the truth of the matter is that he was being honest. And more truth to this—these things do happen. I for one know of a cousin who was molested by her “step-father”. Unfortunately her mother, didn’t believe her and she eventually left the house and turned to crack. Which is another blog in itself because as mothers we must, must, must ALWAYS put our children before ALL others, and if there is a potentially dangerous situation, then we must be reactive. I also have a neighbor who frequents strip clubs looking for girls who remind him of his stepdaughter because she is driving him mad with desire. He says his “step-daughter” is so tempting. And he talks about his lust for her with other guys. You won't believe this sicko "step-father" is a former cop. And what to say about the unsuspecting wife. Is it she blind or is it that she doesn't want to see?
Again its all so unfortunate and disgusting but these things do happen. I feel blessed because I don’t have any daughters and don’t have to worry about this. But I do have nieces, 2 of them live in the house without a man (thank GOD) but there may come a time when they do, 1 of them lives with her biological father, 1 of them lives with a creepy “step-grandfather” which I will save for another blog because her grandmother allows him to spank her, and 1 of them is grown (or at least she thinks so—I will always think she is too young) and she lives with her man. So while the worry is not in my home. I still have the worry about 3 of them. Personally for me, I could not live with a man if I had daughters. I would be to freaked out/ creeped out/paranoid by what could happen. So for me that would not work. Trying to merge a family when the boys were teen and preteen was hard enough with all the testorone in the house but that story is for another blog. But to all mothers—you need to be aware of this danger. And of course I am not saying that ALL men are like the caller and my neighbor—who have sexual thoughts and desires but only lust and fantasize, and I am not saying that ALL men are like my cousin’s “step-father—giving in to fantasies and desires and then molesting and raping her, But what I am saying is that there are varying degrees of men out there and mothers need to WATCH your daughters. It is a cruel, cruel world out there. WATCH YOUR DAUGHTERS!!!!! Better to be save than sorry.
Monday, July 16, 2007
New Job, New Attitude
In the famous words or is it infamous words of James Brown, "I FEEL GOOD!!!" I have a new job, a new attitude, and it shows. It shows in the way I walk, talk, think, act, and feel. I feel so fabulous. It is great to wake up and not drag myself to work. I get to work with energy to start my day and leave work with energy. I don't come home and go immediately to sleep because I am drained. I don't come home in a bad mood. Its a great feeling. My new job is all about making the employees feel good so that they are energetic, enthusiastic, and ready to give their all. Imagine that. They really care how I feel. I know that sounds suspicious. But its really true. Every week, every single Monday, we start the day off with a great email. Read it. I couldn't believe it when I read it myself. It doesn't take long to get used to the good stuff. I am used to it as if I have been here forever.
My boss: she loves life. She is into yoga and her life is about balance and she brings that positive energy with her to work. She starts our Mondays with a different quote.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?Actually, who are you not to be?You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.We were born to make and manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.-- Marianne Williamson
Good evening and happy Sunday,
The quote above is one of my favorites. As I think about tomorrow, next week and the year ahead, I can’t help but think of the many character strengths we talked about on Thursday. And as I read the quote above for the thousandth time, I think a lot about the character strength of bravery, the bravery it takes to not only see our own ‘light’ in stead of ‘darkness’ but the bravery it takes to use it. Likewise, I think about the bravery it takes to:
- leave one’s job in search of something better,
- show up and give 110% everyday,
- be relentless in our pursuit of excellence, the pursuit of finding a better way,
- “Be Nice.”
And, I think about the hundreds of ***sters getting ready for bed (okay, well maybe not for a few more hours) before their first day of school at ***- the bravery it takes to sacrifice for one’s own education because you want something better. I think about the bravery of our new teachers who will stand in front of the ***sters tomorrow and teach their first lesson. I think about the bravery of our veteran teachers who continue to redefine high standards in their classrooms for the first day of their fifth year or seventh year or fourteenth year! I think about the bravery of our Principals who lead us in teaching our kids, alumni and families so that we do in fact ‘build a better tomorrow.’
Thank you again N***, P*** and J*** for choosing **** and for taking a risk in joining our family. Thank you also to K***, T***, C***, H***, I***, L***, C***, L*** and A*** for your bravery in the work we have done day in and day out, and for facing this challenge of building “the best” shared services team despite often times having more questions than answers.
It is with overwhelming excitement that I send this email as we start another year, a year in which we take with us all of the many victories and successes, and quiet moments of ‘ah,’ the mistakes and challenges, and the defeats from last year and marry them with the opportunity of a new year. Here’s to a fantastic journey ahead, and to the incredible bravery and ‘light’ that rests in each of us everyday in all that we do.
Updates and other random stuff:
A huge shout out and thank you to everyone again for their flexibility, muscle power and enthusiasm last week as we unpacked, rearranged, sweated, moved furniture and got organized.
I have never worked anywhere with this much enthusiasm. I am glad to have finally found a job that embodies everything that I think a job should be. I am blessed and lucky. And its finally my time. I always have a plan but I believe that GOD makes it happen in HIS own time.
My boss: she loves life. She is into yoga and her life is about balance and she brings that positive energy with her to work. She starts our Mondays with a different quote.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?Actually, who are you not to be?You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.We were born to make and manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.-- Marianne Williamson
Good evening and happy Sunday,
The quote above is one of my favorites. As I think about tomorrow, next week and the year ahead, I can’t help but think of the many character strengths we talked about on Thursday. And as I read the quote above for the thousandth time, I think a lot about the character strength of bravery, the bravery it takes to not only see our own ‘light’ in stead of ‘darkness’ but the bravery it takes to use it. Likewise, I think about the bravery it takes to:
- leave one’s job in search of something better,
- show up and give 110% everyday,
- be relentless in our pursuit of excellence, the pursuit of finding a better way,
- “Be Nice.”
And, I think about the hundreds of ***sters getting ready for bed (okay, well maybe not for a few more hours) before their first day of school at ***- the bravery it takes to sacrifice for one’s own education because you want something better. I think about the bravery of our new teachers who will stand in front of the ***sters tomorrow and teach their first lesson. I think about the bravery of our veteran teachers who continue to redefine high standards in their classrooms for the first day of their fifth year or seventh year or fourteenth year! I think about the bravery of our Principals who lead us in teaching our kids, alumni and families so that we do in fact ‘build a better tomorrow.’
Thank you again N***, P*** and J*** for choosing **** and for taking a risk in joining our family. Thank you also to K***, T***, C***, H***, I***, L***, C***, L*** and A*** for your bravery in the work we have done day in and day out, and for facing this challenge of building “the best” shared services team despite often times having more questions than answers.
It is with overwhelming excitement that I send this email as we start another year, a year in which we take with us all of the many victories and successes, and quiet moments of ‘ah,’ the mistakes and challenges, and the defeats from last year and marry them with the opportunity of a new year. Here’s to a fantastic journey ahead, and to the incredible bravery and ‘light’ that rests in each of us everyday in all that we do.
Updates and other random stuff:
A huge shout out and thank you to everyone again for their flexibility, muscle power and enthusiasm last week as we unpacked, rearranged, sweated, moved furniture and got organized.
I have never worked anywhere with this much enthusiasm. I am glad to have finally found a job that embodies everything that I think a job should be. I am blessed and lucky. And its finally my time. I always have a plan but I believe that GOD makes it happen in HIS own time.
Sunday, July 08, 2007
My only regret is that I did not send this out to all the employees.
Although I did submit this letter to HR on the day of my departure, my only regret is that I was not bold enough to send to all in an email. That would of really made my day. Oh well, what is done is done. I will just have to be satisfied with giving this to HR.
MEMORANDUM
To: Human Resources Lady
From: Me
Re: Resignation
Date: June 11, 2007
I have been advised by many that it is not worth explaining why I have made the decision to leave the ***. I have thought about whether or not this is the right thing to do. I feel that it might be in the best interest of future employees of the *** if I write my experience. Hopefully these incidents will not be repeated and employees can be happy working here.
Up until the incident that occurred with RS, I felt that Human Resources was unapproachable. I wish I had known that was not the case because that might have prevented me from resigning.
During the 200th year anniversary celebration, because of the amount of work, I chose not to attend and stayed at my desk and did my work. RB was aware of this. Because of my lack of attendance to hear the band play, JK told JB that I should be fired. She made this comment within earshot of several people. I brought this to the attention of RB. I told him that I felt she had no place to worry about whether or not I was there. He told me that she did because she worked in EXO. My response to him was that if she were so concerned she should have come to me directly or she should have spoke to my immediate supervisor. He said he would talk to her.
This incident should have never taken place. JK is unprofessional and she should have never made those inappropriate comments. As to whether or not RB did in fact speak to her, I do not know. This matter was never discussed further.
After Esso resigned a replacement was never found. I have continually said to KW and to RB that this job needs to be done by one full-time person and one part-time person, at the least. For whatever reason, the decision was made for me to do this job by myself with the partial assistance of whoever was the assistant. That was not a good decision based on the amount of work. All the work that I do has deadlines: The reconciliation and distribution of monies needs to be done monthly. The acknowledgement of the donors has to be done weekly. The sorting and distributing of the checks to *** has to be done bi-weekly. The in-house processing of the checks has to be done weekly. The transferring of data from *** into *** has to be done weekly. The acknowledgment of all gifts has to be done weekly. Responding to callers and email has to be done daily. The volume of all work increases during the months of September to January. It is unreasonable to think that this can be done in a timely basis by one person. Although, KW say that she did not know that I needed help, that is entirely false. We, along with RB had a discussion about the increase of work during that time.
When RB gave me my review in the summer of 2006, I discussed with him a title change. He said that we would discuss this further and see how “we” could add further responsibilities to what I already had. Less than two weeks after this review and discussion, I found out by email that RB was going to be the new Vice President of the Data Center. I concluded that during my review he must have known about this. This showed a complete lack of respect for me. At the least he should have told me that it would be KW's responsibility for considering a title change and promotion.
I have trained numerous people to be able to work with me: Including KRM, IT, SO, AH, CT(temp), GM(temp), LJ(temp), and numerous other temps. I have managed all the temps that have worked with me and I have assisted several people in the use of ***Yet this has not been enough evidence to support why I should be a manager.
As you already know, there was an incident with RS. This is what finally brought me to my conclusion that I must resign from the ***.
I felt that he was very disrespectful. KW was extremely unsupportive and concluded that RS was “just doing his job”. I was first insulted by RS with his comment “What prevents you from taking the money?” and insulted again by KW's lack of support. Although I did receive support from Human Resources, I find that I can no longer continue working in this hostile environment.
To add insult to injury, I have learned from KW, that when I leave, I will be replaced by two people. I feel like I have been slaved without compensation. Had I known that this would be the outcome, I would have resigned sooner.
Also, it isn’t enough that I am leaving RS and JK continue to indirectly harass me. They have been questioning staff about my departure. They are concerned with any parties I am having. This is totally uncalled for. I cannot believe that these incidents continue to occur here. I am curious if the incidents between RS and JK can amount to a lawsuit. It is outrageous how they carry on.
With that said, I had no other choice but to resign from the ***. It is not clear that things will ever change here and I cannot and will not be a part of that.
MEMORANDUM
To: Human Resources Lady
From: Me
Re: Resignation
Date: June 11, 2007
I have been advised by many that it is not worth explaining why I have made the decision to leave the ***. I have thought about whether or not this is the right thing to do. I feel that it might be in the best interest of future employees of the *** if I write my experience. Hopefully these incidents will not be repeated and employees can be happy working here.
Up until the incident that occurred with RS, I felt that Human Resources was unapproachable. I wish I had known that was not the case because that might have prevented me from resigning.
During the 200th year anniversary celebration, because of the amount of work, I chose not to attend and stayed at my desk and did my work. RB was aware of this. Because of my lack of attendance to hear the band play, JK told JB that I should be fired. She made this comment within earshot of several people. I brought this to the attention of RB. I told him that I felt she had no place to worry about whether or not I was there. He told me that she did because she worked in EXO. My response to him was that if she were so concerned she should have come to me directly or she should have spoke to my immediate supervisor. He said he would talk to her.
This incident should have never taken place. JK is unprofessional and she should have never made those inappropriate comments. As to whether or not RB did in fact speak to her, I do not know. This matter was never discussed further.
After Esso resigned a replacement was never found. I have continually said to KW and to RB that this job needs to be done by one full-time person and one part-time person, at the least. For whatever reason, the decision was made for me to do this job by myself with the partial assistance of whoever was the assistant. That was not a good decision based on the amount of work. All the work that I do has deadlines: The reconciliation and distribution of monies needs to be done monthly. The acknowledgement of the donors has to be done weekly. The sorting and distributing of the checks to *** has to be done bi-weekly. The in-house processing of the checks has to be done weekly. The transferring of data from *** into *** has to be done weekly. The acknowledgment of all gifts has to be done weekly. Responding to callers and email has to be done daily. The volume of all work increases during the months of September to January. It is unreasonable to think that this can be done in a timely basis by one person. Although, KW say that she did not know that I needed help, that is entirely false. We, along with RB had a discussion about the increase of work during that time.
When RB gave me my review in the summer of 2006, I discussed with him a title change. He said that we would discuss this further and see how “we” could add further responsibilities to what I already had. Less than two weeks after this review and discussion, I found out by email that RB was going to be the new Vice President of the Data Center. I concluded that during my review he must have known about this. This showed a complete lack of respect for me. At the least he should have told me that it would be KW's responsibility for considering a title change and promotion.
I have trained numerous people to be able to work with me: Including KRM, IT, SO, AH, CT(temp), GM(temp), LJ(temp), and numerous other temps. I have managed all the temps that have worked with me and I have assisted several people in the use of ***Yet this has not been enough evidence to support why I should be a manager.
As you already know, there was an incident with RS. This is what finally brought me to my conclusion that I must resign from the ***.
I felt that he was very disrespectful. KW was extremely unsupportive and concluded that RS was “just doing his job”. I was first insulted by RS with his comment “What prevents you from taking the money?” and insulted again by KW's lack of support. Although I did receive support from Human Resources, I find that I can no longer continue working in this hostile environment.
To add insult to injury, I have learned from KW, that when I leave, I will be replaced by two people. I feel like I have been slaved without compensation. Had I known that this would be the outcome, I would have resigned sooner.
Also, it isn’t enough that I am leaving RS and JK continue to indirectly harass me. They have been questioning staff about my departure. They are concerned with any parties I am having. This is totally uncalled for. I cannot believe that these incidents continue to occur here. I am curious if the incidents between RS and JK can amount to a lawsuit. It is outrageous how they carry on.
With that said, I had no other choice but to resign from the ***. It is not clear that things will ever change here and I cannot and will not be a part of that.
Monday, July 02, 2007
The Grass has to be Greener on the other side.
So recently I decided to leave my job. Truth be told a long time ago I decided to leave my job. This is probably why I haven't been blogging. I was feeling so despondent about my old, I had no energy for anything. Most recently, I was offered a fabulous opportunity to leave my job (thank God for that) and move on to something better. I had my resignation ready for weeks as I had already claimed this job. I was just waiting for the deal to go thru. My letter was very liberating and the same day I was offered my new job, I wasted no time in saying good bye to my old job. I feel if I had stayed just one more minute, I might have had a heart attack. So here's the goodbye.
MEMORANDUM
To: Boss B*tch
Boss B*tch of Human Resources
From: Noelle
Re: Resignation
Date: May 31, 2007
It is with firm conviction that I write this letter of resignation from ***.
Please understand that I have made my decision after considerable deliberation.
I am therefore resigning from ***. This will be effective June 14, 2007.
In the interim, I will work with you and AH to ensure a smooth transition.
I hope that I will have your support in making this change as easy as possible.
Thank you.
In response to my resignation, my old boss sent out this announcement.
Noelle will be leaving us to spend more time with her family. Her last day will be June 18th. Noelle has been with the *** for 6 years. Her dedication to caring about the details and taking care of our donors is legendary in our department. She will be missed.
Assuming the Associates position that Noelle is vacating is AH. Although she has been with the *** less than one year, AH has already proven herself. We are recruiting to replace AH.
Please join me in wishing both of them well.
Thanks,
boss b*tch
Boss B*tch
Vice President and Chief Development Officer
She wrote that I was leaving to spend time with my family because I refused to let them know why it was exactly I was leaving. Although if you worked there, you would definitely know why I left. I have to laugh at her use of the word legendary. You would think if I was so revered that they would not have tried to make my life impossible there. I guess she was trying to be nice. In any case good riddance. Wish i could say where this misery took place but I cant cuz there is still someone I like who works there and I wish her all the best cause she is really cool. I look forward to moving on because for me the grass has to be greener on the other side.
MEMORANDUM
To: Boss B*tch
Boss B*tch of Human Resources
From: Noelle
Re: Resignation
Date: May 31, 2007
It is with firm conviction that I write this letter of resignation from ***.
Please understand that I have made my decision after considerable deliberation.
I am therefore resigning from ***. This will be effective June 14, 2007.
In the interim, I will work with you and AH to ensure a smooth transition.
I hope that I will have your support in making this change as easy as possible.
Thank you.
In response to my resignation, my old boss sent out this announcement.
Noelle will be leaving us to spend more time with her family. Her last day will be June 18th. Noelle has been with the *** for 6 years. Her dedication to caring about the details and taking care of our donors is legendary in our department. She will be missed.
Assuming the Associates position that Noelle is vacating is AH. Although she has been with the *** less than one year, AH has already proven herself. We are recruiting to replace AH.
Please join me in wishing both of them well.
Thanks,
boss b*tch
Boss B*tch
Vice President and Chief Development Officer
She wrote that I was leaving to spend time with my family because I refused to let them know why it was exactly I was leaving. Although if you worked there, you would definitely know why I left. I have to laugh at her use of the word legendary. You would think if I was so revered that they would not have tried to make my life impossible there. I guess she was trying to be nice. In any case good riddance. Wish i could say where this misery took place but I cant cuz there is still someone I like who works there and I wish her all the best cause she is really cool. I look forward to moving on because for me the grass has to be greener on the other side.
Wednesday, March 28, 2007
Is it his day or mine.
I have two beautiful baby boys. Baby Number#1 and Baby Number#2. Yesterday was Baby Number #1's birthday.
Baby number one is technically not a baby anymore, he is 17 years old. Wow. I thank GOD that he has so far been blessed with 17 years of life and I also thank GOD for being able to witness it. I am so proud of him. He is a great student, a good son, and a great person. I pray to that GOD continues to bless him all of his life.
Yesterday we celebrated by having breakfast together. Just him and I. Its a tradition. Then we went shopping. We capped it off by going to dinner with his brother and my partner. It was a great day.
This brings me to this thought: Was it his day or mine? For nine months, life was growing in my body. I formed an attachment and a bond with my son even before he was born. I nourished him and cared for him. Then 17 years ago, my water broke and I had labor pains. I had to push. I did all the work. So is it really his day. We celebrate the day he was born but we should actually celebrate me giving him life. It was hard work being pregnant and going through labor.
It was all worth it though because my son is FABULOUS and I love him forever unconditionally for the rest of my life. And he will always be my baby.
Baby number one is technically not a baby anymore, he is 17 years old. Wow. I thank GOD that he has so far been blessed with 17 years of life and I also thank GOD for being able to witness it. I am so proud of him. He is a great student, a good son, and a great person. I pray to that GOD continues to bless him all of his life.
Yesterday we celebrated by having breakfast together. Just him and I. Its a tradition. Then we went shopping. We capped it off by going to dinner with his brother and my partner. It was a great day.
This brings me to this thought: Was it his day or mine? For nine months, life was growing in my body. I formed an attachment and a bond with my son even before he was born. I nourished him and cared for him. Then 17 years ago, my water broke and I had labor pains. I had to push. I did all the work. So is it really his day. We celebrate the day he was born but we should actually celebrate me giving him life. It was hard work being pregnant and going through labor.
It was all worth it though because my son is FABULOUS and I love him forever unconditionally for the rest of my life. And he will always be my baby.
Friday, February 09, 2007
Valentine's Day
I used to love Valentine's day. It was a day where I would rate how much someone loved me by how much they spent or what they bought me or what they planned for the day. And I have had some memorable Valentines.
One of the most special Valentine's of all was with a different love (Jermaine aka "Maine Love"). He was still in High school, and 17 years old and I was about 21. Some might call this cradle robbing. But I beg to differ because he knew how to treat me right. Anyways, he invited me to his house for V-Day. When I got there, he was dressed in a suit and tie. The house was decorated with balloons and candles and he had cooked for me. 17 and he cooked for me. All I remember about the dinner was that there was cornish hens. Fabulous. I think that was the best Valentines I have ever had. Wow. It was nice. I felt special. And it was definitely unexpected.
Anyways back to the subject. I used to love V-Day, and with good reason. But as I have gotten older and have put more thought into it, I realize that love should not be celebrated on one day of the year. Love should be celebrated every day. Not everyone is loved and if someone is loving you and making you feel love then embrace that every day. Don't wait until V-day to send some dead a$$ flowers to the one you claim you love. Don't wait until V-day to go out to dinner. Don't wait until V-day to give a card. Don't wait until V-day to make someone feel special. Don't wait for V-day to show your love. Stop waiting for V-day.
Love and appreciate the one your with all the time. Not just on Valentine's because Valentine's day may never come.
Thursday, February 08, 2007
Foolishness!!!
A co-worker of mine asked me to sign a petition to stop people from eating lunch at their desk. I said no thank you and she got up set. When I asked her for her reasons for doing this she replied that she can't take the smell of other peoples food (all the while her luch is exposed on her desk). I told her that some of us work through our lunch and on a day when it's 8 degrees outside why shouldn't people be able to return to there desk to have their lunch. She then went on to say that we have a cafateria for people to have luch (keep in mind I said co-worker). She then stomps off to ask the girl next door to me they same foolish question about her petition. She even had the nerve to pick up her banana and eat it while explaining her reason to the girl. When she tells her no she tells us that she will make sure she brings this up to the Executive office to have eating at your desk stopped. I personally hope she does go to them so that they will see what a fool she is and put her desk in the janitors room so that she will never have to smell other peoples lunch again. Will the madness ever stop!!! Let's see...TBC
Tuesday, February 06, 2007
Iraq War is no WWII, more like 'Nam
"December 7th, 1941 - a date which will live in infamy..." This speech was given to a joint session of Congress on the very next day of the Pearl Harbor attack. US casualties were heavy and included 2,403 dead; 1,178 wounded and President Roosevelt asked for a declaration of war and so the United States enters WWII. Fast forward to September 11th, 2001 (referred to as 9/11—pronounced "nine eleven") almost sixty years later. The casualties, similar; There were 2,973 fatalities with an additional 24 people remaining listed as missing. Approximately one month after the attacks, the United States led a broad coalition of international forces in the removal of the Taliban regime for harboring the al-Qeada organization. And now a little further into the future, we have the invasion of Iraq on March 20th, 2003. Which was sold partly as crucial to the successful resolution to the 9/11 attacks, which we now know that Saddam & Iraq had no part in. An invasion which has led to asymmetric warfare with the "Iraqi insurgency" and civil war between the Shiite and Sunni muslims, 3,080 US service members dead & 22,834 wounded in action (don't forget the civilian contractors and coalition forces, they have casualties also), 54,432 to 60,098 civilian deaths (according to the Iraq Body Count project as of January 24th, 2007), and this is all costing the American taxpayer over $360 billion as of January 22, 2007. There was something noble and honorable about WWII, an actual cause. Even the war against the Taliban and al-Qeada had meaning to it. Oh, but here is the Iraq war, a modern day Vietnam (in terms of the mighty US military machine getting it's butt kicked), guzzling on our financial resources and claiming thousands (who knows where the number stops) of lives - of our own children and of those who we are supposed to be liberating. With this war there will be no parades, ticker-tape, or even a memorable photograph for our troops returning home, just post traumatic stress, lack of a limb(s), and no support from their own government...just like Vietnam.
Poverty in America
This is all too common in this country, the poor are relegated to a spot on 20/20, 60 Minutes, or a simple blog. Regardless, they are still poor and not getting the help their country so easily and quickly distributes to other nations. Now there is nothing wrong with helping out others, but you have to wonder why the richest nation in the world has citizens who are starving for no good reason. The litte boy in the picture is not alone when it comes to not knowing about the concept of lunch or dinner, there is something seriously wrong with that. I want to scream because I don't know where to begin to help, but I hope that by posting blogs like this and talking to others, I will be enlightened as to what actions to take and you the reader will feel compassion to help.
Camden has been named America's most dangerous city twice by City Crime Rankings, an annual reference book. During the 2005 Christmas holidays, there were four slayings in 48 hours, all too characteristic of a place with a murder rate more than seven times the national average.
Camden has been named America's most dangerous city twice by City Crime Rankings, an annual reference book. During the 2005 Christmas holidays, there were four slayings in 48 hours, all too characteristic of a place with a murder rate more than seven times the national average. "Do you know your threes?" asked the school district supervisor. Ivan easily counted the three wheels on the tricycle, but he was stumped when asked how many meals you are supposed to eat in a day. (The following link will direct you to the abcnews video)
http://abcnews.go.com/Video/playerIndex?id=2816480
http://abcnews.go.com/Video/playerIndex?id=2816480
Sunday, January 21, 2007
Stop putting up with Adultery
I have been thinking alot about adultery lately and I have come to certain conclusions:
1. Adultery is unforgiveable. Meaning you should let his cheating a&& go. If he gets caught cheating once either he has been cheating all along and/or he is more prone to doing it again.
1. Men cheat because the mistress has a better attitude than the wife/girlfriend. Hello, the wife is doing all the cooking, cleaning, and picking up after the man. She may not always be in the best of moods or ready to drop it like its hot all the damn time cuz she is too damn tired.
2. The mistress has a good deal. She has no wifely duties and doesnt have to deal with the toilet seat being left up, the toothpaste being squeezed from the middle of the tube, you get what I am saying etc, etc.
3.All is well until said husband is busted and she gets the beatdown of her life by the wife. and then the husband becomes her live in because the wife kicked his sorry, trifiling a&& out. Then he becomes her problem.
.4And just when the mistress thinks she has won the grand prize......the cycle continues.
1. Adultery is unforgiveable. Meaning you should let his cheating a&& go. If he gets caught cheating once either he has been cheating all along and/or he is more prone to doing it again.
1. Men cheat because the mistress has a better attitude than the wife/girlfriend. Hello, the wife is doing all the cooking, cleaning, and picking up after the man. She may not always be in the best of moods or ready to drop it like its hot all the damn time cuz she is too damn tired.
2. The mistress has a good deal. She has no wifely duties and doesnt have to deal with the toilet seat being left up, the toothpaste being squeezed from the middle of the tube, you get what I am saying etc, etc.
3.All is well until said husband is busted and she gets the beatdown of her life by the wife. and then the husband becomes her live in because the wife kicked his sorry, trifiling a&& out. Then he becomes her problem.
.4And just when the mistress thinks she has won the grand prize......the cycle continues.
Thursday, January 18, 2007
"I've said thousands of times I'm not God."
"I've said thousands of times I'm not God.", says the phony psychic Sylvia Browne. The author of over a dozen "psychic" materials (books, CDs, etc.) was proven wrong the other day. Her abilities failed her and now she is being blamed for the delay in the return of the missing child. Shame on you for falling for this nonsense. Now that she has admitted to not being GOD, maybe you lost souls out there will stop putting your faith and trust in the fallible, and hopefully you can actually save a few dollars to spend on something more worthwhile.She told them boy was dead
Crystal ball fails psychic in Mo. kidnap
BY CHRISTINA BOYLE DAILY NEWS WRITER
Montel Williams' psychic pal Sylvia Browne told the family of missing Shawn Hornbeck he was dead shortly after the Missouri boy vanished - and later allegedly offered to help locate his body for $700 per half hour.
The popular TV clairvoyant appeared on the "Montel Williams Show" in February 2003, four months after Shawn disappeared, and told Pam and Craig Akers she believed their son was "no longer with us."
She also advised that his body could be found in a wooded area 20 miles from their Richwoods, Mo., home, near two large jagged boulders.
Shawn, now 15, was found alive and well last Friday, living just miles away with a man now charged with snatching the boy when he was 11.
Browne's "vision" of his death caused search teams to redirect their efforts and drew dozens of calls from the public who believed they lived near the woods matching Browne's descriptions.
The family also claims the psychic then tried to cash in, which Browne vigorously denies.
"She called Pam and Craig about one month after the show and pretty much offered her services to continue their discussion for a fee," said Wayne Evans, a spokesman for the Shawn Hornbeck Foundation.
"Pam was that desperate that if she had had $700 in her bank account she would have put it on the table. We are talking about a mother who would have sold her soul to have her boy back."
"Everybody was angry," he added. "Sylvia Browne's name was never brought up again until Shawn was found. He's home now, and that's all that matters."
Browne, a regular guest on the "Montel" show, apologized for her misfire, exposed first by StopSylviaBrowne.com, a blog dedicated to tracking the psychic's every blunder.
"I'm terribly sorry that this happened," she told the Daily News. "But I think my body of work stands by itself. I've broken case after case."
"I think it's just cruel to jump on this one case in which I was wrong," she added defensively. "I've said thousands of times I'm not God."
She also denied ever offering her services to Shawn's family for cash.
"There's never been a case that I've ever charged for a missing child," Browne said. "I would never do that. Never, never."
A spokeswoman for Williams said the talk show host was taping more shows and unavailable for comment. Browne was his only guest on yesterday's show.
Michael Devlin, the 300-pound pizza parlor manager charged with kidnapping Shawn four years ago and a second boy just last week, is to be arraigned today in Missouri courtroom.
He is also under investigation for the disappearance of another boy, Charles Arlin Henderson, 16 years ago.
http://www.nydailynews.com/01-18-2007/news/story/489641p-412369c.html
It seemed like a good idea.
I love the idea of a blog where I can just write about anything thats in my mind. Sometimes I just need to vent and dont necessarily vent out loud because that can get out of hand. But now I find that I want to talk about things that I cant necessarily put in the blog. Thats because I dont want people to recognize themselves in my blog. I guess its my fault for sharing the blog in the first place. But most of the stuff I want to write about is shareable. And I like sharing. But as for the other stuff that I want to say I guess the only solution to that is to write an anonymous blog.
Wednesday, January 17, 2007
Who Really Needs To Go???
I'm not saying Saddam Hussein didn't deserve what he got, but if you look at his record as a leader and humanitarian [Iraq was providing social services that were unprecedented among Middle Eastern countries. Saddam established the "National Campaign for the Eradication of Illiteracy" and the campaign for "Compulsory Free Education in Iraq,"...the government established universal free schooling up to the highest education levels; hundreds of thousands learned to read in the years following the initiation of the program. The government also supported families of soldiers, granted free hospitalization to everyone, and gave subsidies to farmers. Iraq created one of the most modernized public-health systems in the Middle East, earning Saddam an award from the United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization] you will begin to wonder why and who are we really fighting against. Do the research, you'll be surprised.
Omar al-Bashir, Sudan
Since February 2003, Bashir’s campaign of ethnic and religious persecution has killed at least 180,000 civilians in Darfur in western Sudan and driven 2 million people from their homes. The good news is that Bashir’s army and the Janjaweed militia that he supports have all but stopped burning down villages in Darfur. The bad news is why they’ve stopped: There are few villages left to burn. The attacks now are aimed at refugee camps. While the media have called these actions “a humanitarian tragedy,” Bashir himself has escaped major condemnation. In 2005, Bashir signed a peace agreement with the largest rebel group in non-Islamic southern Sudan and allowed its leader, John Garang, to become the nation’s vice president. But Garang died in July in a helicopter crash, and Bashir’s troops still occupy the south.
Kim Jong-il, North Korea
While the outside world focuses on Kim Jong-il’s nuclear weapons program, domestically he runs the world’s most tightly controlled society. North Korea continues to rank last in the index of press freedom compiled by Reporters Without Borders, and for the 34th straight year it earned the worst possible score on political rights and civil liberties from Freedom House. An estimated 250,000 people are confined in “reeducation camps.” Malnourishment is widespread: According to the United Nations World Food Program, the average 7-year-old boy in North Korea is almost 8 inches shorter than a South Korean boy the same age and more than 20 pounds lighter. His annual purchases of Hennessy's cognac reportedly total to $700,000, while the average North Korean earns the equivalent of $900 per year.
Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, Iran
Ahmadinejad is an outspoken critic of the Bush administration, is supportive of strengthened relations with Russia, and has refused to stop the nuclear program of Iran against the wishes of the United Nations. He was widely condemned for his statements approving the notion that Israel "must be wiped off the map" and repeatedly describing the Holocaust as a "myth", although he has insisted that he is not antisemitic. Several former hostages from the American Embassy takeover of 1979 have named Ahmadinejad as being involved in the hostage crisis. Former hostage David Roeder in particular has been adamant about Ahmadinejad's role, saying that Ahmadinejad, in an effort to get him to talk, threatened to kidnap his son back in the USA. He said, that "the wave of the Islamic revolution" would soon "reach the entire world."
Tuesday, January 16, 2007
Give me space PLEASE!
What the…
Have you ever gotten on an empty subway train, sit down, get comfortable and pull out and get into a book or newspaper article then slowly you notice your ass is cramped-the hell-up and you’re hardly able to turn a page! You were sitting on the train just as comfortable as you can possibly get until you reach your destination and some how the people getting on after you make themselves comfortable at your expense. HOW THE HELL DOES THAT HAPPEN? That’s get to me in the worst way. Do you mean I get so focused that I don’t notice the person trying to squeeze there ass into a small space? I might just have to stop reading on the train and check that shit for real. And don’t think for a moment it’s the big ass people alone either. The stupid ass nerds, lazy folks and tall men (who spread eagle when they sit down) do the shit also! I have to come up with a plan. TBC
Uggggggggggggg!!!!
Have you ever gotten on an empty subway train, sit down, get comfortable and pull out and get into a book or newspaper article then slowly you notice your ass is cramped-the hell-up and you’re hardly able to turn a page! You were sitting on the train just as comfortable as you can possibly get until you reach your destination and some how the people getting on after you make themselves comfortable at your expense. HOW THE HELL DOES THAT HAPPEN? That’s get to me in the worst way. Do you mean I get so focused that I don’t notice the person trying to squeeze there ass into a small space? I might just have to stop reading on the train and check that shit for real. And don’t think for a moment it’s the big ass people alone either. The stupid ass nerds, lazy folks and tall men (who spread eagle when they sit down) do the shit also! I have to come up with a plan. TBC
Uggggggggggggg!!!!
Wednesday, January 10, 2007
Dial 911 in case of emergency.
This is just the most ridiculous story. Did the nurse really feel that she had to speak to a principal in order to decide whether or not to call 911 for this child? What I want to know is who is this nurse? What school did she go to? Why did she think that she needed the principals permission? Not only should she and the principal be fired but they should face criminal charges. What they did was criminal. She should of used better judgement. She should of made the 911 call regardless of the principals rules. There was an emergency going on. She neglected the needs of a patient. The family should also get more than the 2 million dollars they are suing for. My condolences go out to the Martinez family.
New York Daily News - http://www.nydailynews.com
911 breach in son death enrages dad BY JOSE MARTINEZ
DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITER
Tuesday, January 9th, 2007
The father of an 11-year-old boy who died following an asthma attack at a Brooklyn school was disgusted to learn yesterday that all city schools are supposed to follow a rule that could have helped save his son's life.
Shawn Martinez sighed when told that in case of a medical emergency, school staffers are required to call 911 before trying to locate a principal.
As reported in the Daily News, Martinez has filed a $2 million lawsuit against the city, two nurses and their employer, alleging that nurses at Public School 20 in Clinton Hill didn't call 911 because they could not find the principal while his son, Shawn, suffered an asthma attack in February 2003.
"How can you just do the exact opposite of what you're supposed to do?" Martinez said.
According to Chancellor's Regulation A-412, school staffers must call 911 in a medical emergency and then find a principal, who should go to the scene with a "trained health professional."
"The principal should be contacted after 911 has been called, not the other way around," said David Cantor, a spokesman for the Education Department.
In sworn testimony, two nurses said they were barred from calling 911 without first alerting the principal, who is not identified by name in court papers.
According to Education Department records, the principal in 2003 was Brenda Williams-Jackson. A woman of the same name now heads an elementary school in Nassau County but did not return calls yesterday.
"I can understand the [Education Department] waking up now and going, 'That's an insane policy,'" said the family's attorney, David Dean, of the law firm Sullivan Papain. "But we know what the policy was at this school in February of 2003."
An official with the city's Law Department said the school "acted appropriately" in treating the ailing boy.
"We are confident that when all the facts come out, they will demonstrate that the city and the Department of Education acted appropriately," said Mark Palomino, chief of the agency's special litigation unit.
Shawn's mother, Gabrielle Walton, called 911 after picking the boy up from school and trying to treat him at home.
"He told me that he was going to die and he couldn't breathe," Walton said in a deposition. "I said, 'Shawnie, please don't die on me.'"
The boy was pronounced dead at St. Mary's Hospital just over two hours after he set foot in the school clinic.
"I just really, really, really do not want this to happen to anyone else," said Shawn Martinez. "I really would not wish this on anyone."
With Nicole Bode
Asthma is a leading cause of hospitalization for New York City childrenup to age 14.
Other facts:
17% of New York City children - about 300,000 kids - have asthma.
30% of kids in the South Bronx and central Brooklyn have asthma.
700,000 adults in the city have asthma.
Asthma is more common among women than men, and disproportionately affects Hispanics.
About 12% of children - 8.9 million kids - across the nation have asthma, less than the city's asthma rate for kids.
Source: N.Y.C. Department of Health and Mental Hygiene;National Center for Health Statistics
New York Daily News - http://www.nydailynews.com
911 breach in son death enrages dad BY JOSE MARTINEZ
DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITER
Tuesday, January 9th, 2007
The father of an 11-year-old boy who died following an asthma attack at a Brooklyn school was disgusted to learn yesterday that all city schools are supposed to follow a rule that could have helped save his son's life.
Shawn Martinez sighed when told that in case of a medical emergency, school staffers are required to call 911 before trying to locate a principal.
As reported in the Daily News, Martinez has filed a $2 million lawsuit against the city, two nurses and their employer, alleging that nurses at Public School 20 in Clinton Hill didn't call 911 because they could not find the principal while his son, Shawn, suffered an asthma attack in February 2003.
"How can you just do the exact opposite of what you're supposed to do?" Martinez said.
According to Chancellor's Regulation A-412, school staffers must call 911 in a medical emergency and then find a principal, who should go to the scene with a "trained health professional."
"The principal should be contacted after 911 has been called, not the other way around," said David Cantor, a spokesman for the Education Department.
In sworn testimony, two nurses said they were barred from calling 911 without first alerting the principal, who is not identified by name in court papers.
According to Education Department records, the principal in 2003 was Brenda Williams-Jackson. A woman of the same name now heads an elementary school in Nassau County but did not return calls yesterday.
"I can understand the [Education Department] waking up now and going, 'That's an insane policy,'" said the family's attorney, David Dean, of the law firm Sullivan Papain. "But we know what the policy was at this school in February of 2003."
An official with the city's Law Department said the school "acted appropriately" in treating the ailing boy.
"We are confident that when all the facts come out, they will demonstrate that the city and the Department of Education acted appropriately," said Mark Palomino, chief of the agency's special litigation unit.
Shawn's mother, Gabrielle Walton, called 911 after picking the boy up from school and trying to treat him at home.
"He told me that he was going to die and he couldn't breathe," Walton said in a deposition. "I said, 'Shawnie, please don't die on me.'"
The boy was pronounced dead at St. Mary's Hospital just over two hours after he set foot in the school clinic.
"I just really, really, really do not want this to happen to anyone else," said Shawn Martinez. "I really would not wish this on anyone."
With Nicole Bode
Asthma is a leading cause of hospitalization for New York City childrenup to age 14.
Other facts:
17% of New York City children - about 300,000 kids - have asthma.
30% of kids in the South Bronx and central Brooklyn have asthma.
700,000 adults in the city have asthma.
Asthma is more common among women than men, and disproportionately affects Hispanics.
About 12% of children - 8.9 million kids - across the nation have asthma, less than the city's asthma rate for kids.
Source: N.Y.C. Department of Health and Mental Hygiene;National Center for Health Statistics
Monday, January 08, 2007
I love that I am employed
I love that I am employed and need to be so I can take care of my business. BUT I do not love some things that happen at my job. There are certain things that happen here that truly get on my nerves. And I know its not just limited to this spot but since its happening here, I would like to highlight a couple of things:
This just happened today:
People here normally take lunch between 12 to 1pm or between 1 to 2pm. This means unless its a dire emergency (and I dont work in a hospital) you shouldnt be f*cking with anybody during those hours. It really pisses me off to the highest level of pissetivity when I take lunch at my desk. Now today I am clearly on lunch cuz the sandwich is in my hand inches from my mouth. So Boss B*tch asks me for a report that she cant seem to print on her computer. That is not the time to ask me for no fucking report. What I wanted to say is BITCH, GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM ME, CANT YOU SEE THAT I AM FUCKING EATING. So what that she is my boss and has the power to give me the big boot right in the crack of my a&&, but what the f*ck, am I not entitled to lunch? So what happens.....i can feel myself getting more and more agitated as she is speaking so I have to literally sit on my hand to keep from tapping. I get a napkin and cover my sandwich thats as big as a DAGWOOD and she wants to apologize and tell me I can get the report for her when I am done. No b*tch, we about to be done right now. Here is your f*cking report, now bounce.....And if eating at my desk means I can and will be disturbed then it needs to be added to my work manual. Otherwise step the f*ck off!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Since I am already fuming, I might as well gripe about other sh*t:
The other day, me and a coworker were going back and forth snapping on each other. She likes to think that I am hooker cuz I am too fabulous for her range of understanding. Another coworker up in the mix overhears and gets a kick out of it. Later in the day, he proceeds to ask of me what time can he meet me under the bridge. Well, I must say that I had to let that little piece of sh*t know not to ever disrespect me like that again. I told him 'Dont fucking play with me like that. Thats between me and her' He apologized and all but what I dont get is what made him feel so comfortable in the first f*cking place. Step the f*ck off, mini you.
There is this older chick that works here who is ALWAYS up in the business. Everybody's business. This old b*tch was mad because I didnt attend the 100 years celebration. Well guess the eff what, Not only was I NOT interested in attending but I was at my desk busy working and I did not have time to listen to some unknown low budget group perform for the company. Granted I could hear them from my desk and they were kind of good, but not the good where I would run out and get a bootleg of their music. Anyways, she was peeved and so she suggested to the 2nd in command of the whole company that I should be fired. Boy, I tell you, some of these people here are so lucky that I need to be employed cuz if I didnt have any sense, I would of straight smacked that hoe in her mouth. How dare she! And when I took it to my boss, I kind of felt like he didnt have my back. That disrespectful b*tch is probably sucking everybody off the way she has pull around here.
I got myself all riled up and I havent even finished lunch.
To be continued...........
This just happened today:
People here normally take lunch between 12 to 1pm or between 1 to 2pm. This means unless its a dire emergency (and I dont work in a hospital) you shouldnt be f*cking with anybody during those hours. It really pisses me off to the highest level of pissetivity when I take lunch at my desk. Now today I am clearly on lunch cuz the sandwich is in my hand inches from my mouth. So Boss B*tch asks me for a report that she cant seem to print on her computer. That is not the time to ask me for no fucking report. What I wanted to say is BITCH, GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM ME, CANT YOU SEE THAT I AM FUCKING EATING. So what that she is my boss and has the power to give me the big boot right in the crack of my a&&, but what the f*ck, am I not entitled to lunch? So what happens.....i can feel myself getting more and more agitated as she is speaking so I have to literally sit on my hand to keep from tapping. I get a napkin and cover my sandwich thats as big as a DAGWOOD and she wants to apologize and tell me I can get the report for her when I am done. No b*tch, we about to be done right now. Here is your f*cking report, now bounce.....And if eating at my desk means I can and will be disturbed then it needs to be added to my work manual. Otherwise step the f*ck off!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Since I am already fuming, I might as well gripe about other sh*t:
The other day, me and a coworker were going back and forth snapping on each other. She likes to think that I am hooker cuz I am too fabulous for her range of understanding. Another coworker up in the mix overhears and gets a kick out of it. Later in the day, he proceeds to ask of me what time can he meet me under the bridge. Well, I must say that I had to let that little piece of sh*t know not to ever disrespect me like that again. I told him 'Dont fucking play with me like that. Thats between me and her' He apologized and all but what I dont get is what made him feel so comfortable in the first f*cking place. Step the f*ck off, mini you.
There is this older chick that works here who is ALWAYS up in the business. Everybody's business. This old b*tch was mad because I didnt attend the 100 years celebration. Well guess the eff what, Not only was I NOT interested in attending but I was at my desk busy working and I did not have time to listen to some unknown low budget group perform for the company. Granted I could hear them from my desk and they were kind of good, but not the good where I would run out and get a bootleg of their music. Anyways, she was peeved and so she suggested to the 2nd in command of the whole company that I should be fired. Boy, I tell you, some of these people here are so lucky that I need to be employed cuz if I didnt have any sense, I would of straight smacked that hoe in her mouth. How dare she! And when I took it to my boss, I kind of felt like he didnt have my back. That disrespectful b*tch is probably sucking everybody off the way she has pull around here.
I got myself all riled up and I havent even finished lunch.
To be continued...........
Thursday, January 04, 2007
My New Theme Song
Have you heard the song called 'Yesterday' by MaryMary? What an amazing song!!! The lyrics move me and fill me with the spirit. It is my new theme song for the rest of my days.
Yesterday by Mary Mary
I had enough heartache
and enough headaches
I've had so many ups and downs
Don't know how much more i can take
See i decided
that i cried my last tear yesterday
Either i'm going to trust you
or i may as well walk away
'cause stressing don't make it better
Don't make it better, no way
See i decided
that i cried my last tear yesterday
Yesterday,
Yesterday,
i decided to put my trust in you
Yesterday
Yesterday
Yesterday
I realized
that you will being me through
There ain't nothing to hard for my god, no
Any problems that i have
He's greater greater than them all,
so
I decided that i cried my last tear
yesterday
Yesterday
Yesterday
I decided that I am gonna put my trust in you
Yesterday
Yesterday
Yesterday
I realized that you would bring me through
There aint nothing too hard for my God
any problems thay I have he is greater than them all
so I decided that I cried my last tear yesterday
Yesterday by Mary Mary
I had enough heartache
and enough headaches
I've had so many ups and downs
Don't know how much more i can take
See i decided
that i cried my last tear yesterday
Either i'm going to trust you
or i may as well walk away
'cause stressing don't make it better
Don't make it better, no way
See i decided
that i cried my last tear yesterday
Yesterday,
Yesterday,
i decided to put my trust in you
Yesterday
Yesterday
Yesterday
I realized
that you will being me through
There ain't nothing to hard for my god, no
Any problems that i have
He's greater greater than them all,
so
I decided that i cried my last tear
yesterday
Yesterday
Yesterday
I decided that I am gonna put my trust in you
Yesterday
Yesterday
Yesterday
I realized that you would bring me through
There aint nothing too hard for my God
any problems thay I have he is greater than them all
so I decided that I cried my last tear yesterday
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