Soulmate vs. Playmate

The following are not my words but i thought they were so true so I wanted to share.

In our quest for happiness we must be sure that we don't settle for aPlaymate when God has a Soul mate waiting for us. Sometimes this is ahard distinction to make. Playmates are tricky. They are so much fun tobe with that even the smartest of us will be fooled into thinking thishas to be our Soul mate. Worse yet too many of us attempt to make a Soulmate out of a Playmate.
The danger of this is that later, after years of playing, we will meetour Soul mate, but it may be too late. We may have already made a Lifemate of our Playmate and created life-long bonds (emotional, children,> etc.).Alternatively, we may have been hurt from playing so hard that we are in no shape ourselves to be any one's anything. How can we distinguish between the One, and just another one? First, we must be open with ourselves about who we really are and what our soul yearns for. Only you and God know what is truly in your heart and mind.Only you know what will make you truly happy and whole. In order to find your Soul mate you have to know you, first. You must be willing to listen to that inner voice. Moreover, is that voice telling you that the nerdy person you enjoy talking and sharing your thoughts with, could be him? What about that friend who is always willing to go the extra mile for you when no one else will.Oh no! He's too short or too tall, balding or too hairy, and on and on?Just too ordinary looking for me Then there's that girl who makes you feel so special when you're around her, but she doesn't match that ideal you have conjured in your head.She's too tall, not slender enough, not light or dark enough, not shapely enough, not attractive enough, and on and on. She just couldn't be for me! Therefore, what if he or she doesn't look like Shemar Moore or Vivica Fox. Is he or she going to treat you like the jewel that you are?Not only that, his or her soul and yours will commune in ways you never imagined possible! In order to heed that voice, we have to put on the back burner our own superficial thinking. Could it be that your inner desire is for a truly genuine person with a good heart? If you enjoy playing, stay on the playground. There are plenty of Playmates out thereto occupy your time. Nevertheless, don't spend too much time playing or you may play your life away. Eventually the playing loses it appeal and your soul begins to crave a deeper, more meaningful connection. Your soul begins to crave your Soul mate.Never make someone a priority when all you are to him or her is an Option.

AMEN

"The measure of a man is how well he takes care of his children"Sidney Poitier

Pretty Hot And Tempting

Today’s hot topic on the Spanish radio was about younger females and men being tempted by them. Namely, there was a caller who was calling about his stepdaughter. He said that at 13, she had a “tremendo cuerpazo” meaning that she had the body of a 16 – 18 year old, and that she was very sexy. He also said that she wore thongs around the house, which is another blog in itself. Shame on her mother for not teaching her daughter to dress appropriate in front of the step-father or any man in the house for that matter. I dont care if its Tio, Cousin, Abuelo, who ever. To me there are certain rules when you live in the house with men who may or may not be relatives.

1. Don’t come out of the shower with just a towel.
2. Definitely don’t come out of the shower with less than a towel.
3. Be dressed appropriately at all times meaning NO walking around the house in panties, bras, thongs, lingerie.
4. Sit with your legs closed especially if your wearing a skirt.
5. It’s MY HOUSE and if you want to do any of the above GRADUATE and MOVE the F*CK OUT.

Back to the caller: He went on to say that he had thoughts about his step daughter and that she turned him on. He had only been in the house, part of the family for 4 to 5 years. Now this might make you sick, as it does me, but the truth of the matter is that he was being honest. And more truth to this—these things do happen. I for one know of a cousin who was molested by her “step-father”. Unfortunately her mother, didn’t believe her and she eventually left the house and turned to crack. Which is another blog in itself because as mothers we must, must, must ALWAYS put our children before ALL others, and if there is a potentially dangerous situation, then we must be reactive. I also have a neighbor who frequents strip clubs looking for girls who remind him of his stepdaughter because she is driving him mad with desire. He says his “step-daughter” is so tempting. And he talks about his lust for her with other guys. You won't believe this sicko "step-father" is a former cop. And what to say about the unsuspecting wife. Is it she blind or is it that she doesn't want to see?

Again its all so unfortunate and disgusting but these things do happen. I feel blessed because I don’t have any daughters and don’t have to worry about this. But I do have nieces, 2 of them live in the house without a man (thank GOD) but there may come a time when they do, 1 of them lives with her biological father, 1 of them lives with a creepy “step-grandfather” which I will save for another blog because her grandmother allows him to spank her, and 1 of them is grown (or at least she thinks so—I will always think she is too young) and she lives with her man. So while the worry is not in my home. I still have the worry about 3 of them. Personally for me, I could not live with a man if I had daughters. I would be to freaked out/ creeped out/paranoid by what could happen. So for me that would not work. Trying to merge a family when the boys were teen and preteen was hard enough with all the testorone in the house but that story is for another blog. But to all mothers—you need to be aware of this danger. And of course I am not saying that ALL men are like the caller and my neighbor—who have sexual thoughts and desires but only lust and fantasize, and I am not saying that ALL men are like my cousin’s “step-father—giving in to fantasies and desires and then molesting and raping her, But what I am saying is that there are varying degrees of men out there and mothers need to WATCH your daughters. It is a cruel, cruel world out there. WATCH YOUR DAUGHTERS!!!!! Better to be save than sorry.

Stop putting up with Adultery

I have been thinking alot about adultery lately and I have come to certain conclusions:

1. Adultery is unforgiveable. Meaning you should let his cheating a&& go. If he gets caught cheating once either he has been cheating all along and/or he is more prone to doing it again.

1. Men cheat because the mistress has a better attitude than the wife/girlfriend. Hello, the wife is doing all the cooking, cleaning, and picking up after the man. She may not always be in the best of moods or ready to drop it like its hot all the damn time cuz she is too damn tired.

2. The mistress has a good deal. She has no wifely duties and doesnt have to deal with the toilet seat being left up, the toothpaste being squeezed from the middle of the tube, you get what I am saying etc, etc.

3.All is well until said husband is busted and she gets the beatdown of her life by the wife. and then the husband becomes her live in because the wife kicked his sorry, trifiling a&& out. Then he becomes her problem.

.4And just when the mistress thinks she has won the grand prize......the cycle continues.