Grown & sexy. That's what I am always talking about. Someone beat me to it and wrote a mini-manual.
Grown Women
Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.
Girls yell at you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.
Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it -- using it as a time for personal growth.
Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.
Girls make you come home.
Grown women make you want to come home.
Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits in.
Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.
Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a li'l bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special -- and goes out with her own friends.
Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.
Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood.'
Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that was just one man.
Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs.'
Grown women know that sometimes the ones you love, don't always love you back -- and move on, without bitterness.
Girls will read this and get an attitude.
Grown women will read this and pass it on to other Grown women and their male friends.
I am grown, not to mention sexy!!! How about you???
Sunday, September 30, 2007
Tuesday, September 11, 2007
A Memory I Would Like to Erase.
Today is one of the saddest days. It's September 11 and although it has been six years, I try not to remember. Although I was not directly affected, the memory of the Twin Towers coming down brings tears to my eyes and I feel a weight on my heart. You would think that after six years I would forget, but it is just that I do not want to remember.
May God bless all those directly and indirectly affected by the collapse of the Twins. May God bless the Firefighters, Police Officers, EMS workers, and volunteers who put their lives on the line to save and/or help others. May God bless the servicemen and women who are still fighting for who knows what reason. May God bless us all.
Ever since September 11, 2001 I have not worked on that day. I was off on that day because I was taking the kids to the doctor. Then every year after that I just could not bring myself to work because it just felt like a day of mourning. I would always watch the news and memorials, and the reading of the names, and I would cry. As the years have gone by, it has become unbearable. I cannot bear to watch any more memorials. I do not want to watch any more movies. I wish the impossible. I wish this day would never have happened. It is the one memory I would like to erase.
Saturday, September 08, 2007
Dogs and Flying Sh*t
So I was away in Arizona for a whole week back in the beginning of August. The flight was long and awful. There was lots of turbulence. But I am glad we were safe. Thank God for that. I have objections over the fact that if I wanted to eat on the plane, I had to pay $5 to eat. So many issues with airlines, from the cost of a plane ticket, to the wait times, the flights are almost always late in departure and arrival, and I have to pay for my food. Good thing I bought my own food before I got on the plane. On the way back to NYC they were serving breakfast instead of lunch and only had limited quantities. Whats that about? Oh and I want to bring up that at the airport in Arizona, Phoenix to be exact, there was a woman in the bathroom walking her dog. I mean newspaper spread on the floor, dog trying to sh*t, walking her dog. WTF, after seeing that I was so ready to come home. I thought the crazy stuff only happened in NY, apparently not. So glad to be back home.
Military Issue Part 2
And the story continues.
KILLEEN, Tex. - Bronx soldier Jonathan Aponte doesn't know yet if he'll be punished by his superiors, but he's already taking lumps from his peers.
Since returning to his base, the 20-year-old private has felt the scorn of other soldiers - through stares and words - who are appalled that he hired someone to shoot him in the leg to avoid returning to Iraq.
"Some guys have been giving me a hard time, here and there," Aponte told the Daily News at Fort Hood, where he arrived Thursday after being ordered back by the U.S. Army. "It's random people," he said. "Not really anyone I know. They've been saying, 'You're a piece of s---.' I'm trying to take it lightly."
For the young G.I., the timing of his return could not have been worse. The day he got to Texas, officials announced two Fort Hood soldiers - Pfc. Ron Joshua, 19, and Pfc. Brandon Bobb, 20 - had been killed by a bomb.
The news left few soldiers sympathetic to Aponte's struggle.
"I wouldn't want him next to me in combat - not a chicken like that," said Dee Xiong, 22, an infantryman set to redeploy in December after serving 10 months in Iraq.
"What he did was wrong," said a 20-year-old Army mechanic who served a year in Iraq. "You know what you sign up for and you just have to finish it out."
Even residents and merchants near the base frowned on Aponte's actions, though they expressed a sincere appreciation for the difficulty of his job.
"He should have went about it in a different way," said Nancy Watts, 50, a manager at an Arby's. "There are people who can help you," said Watts, whose daughter is a retired Army medic. "I feel sorry for him that he felt he had to do something so drastic."
But one soldier confided he has thought about faking an injury to get out of service - saying the burden of war can leave the mind and body totally warped.
"I understand where he's coming," said a 20-year-old grunt from Amarillo, Tex., who asked not to be named. "There's a lot of stress and no downtime. People will do desperate things to stay with their families."
Aponte had served 10 months in Iraq when he returned to the Bronx on a two-week leave in June. He was scheduled to be redeployed on July 9. Instead of reporting for duty that day, he arranged to be shot in the knee by an acquaintance in exchange for $500, he has admitted.
He said he was so psychologically damaged by his time in Baghdad he could not return for another eight months, and that his scheme was hatched out of desperation.
Aponte, his wife and the alleged triggerman, have been charged with conspiracy and face serious jail time.
tel-ghobashy@nydailynews.com
And the following are a few comments from some daily news readers.
DaveP Jul 22, 2007 1:20 AM
His fellow soldiers are dispensing their own brand of justice, quite apart from whatever the Army does to him. This should not have had to happen, besides the fact that we shouldn't be there. This is what happens when there is an all volunteer military. You go to war with what you have- not what you wish you had. Not too many people would volunteer when they know they will be getting shot at. Being re-deployed into combat three and four times is mind boggling. In a way, I don't blame the guy, but it is what it is. The problem is that there isn't anyone else left to send. If Mexico invaded us there would be nobody to fight them. Forget Korea, they would have to fend for themselves.
Pomeranianzdad Jul 22, 2007 5:55 AM
I can understand why fellow soldiers feel anger towards Aponte, but I don't condone their actions. The questions that remain unanswered include 1--What has or hasn't the military offered Aponte in terms of support? 2--What would lead a person to have himself maimed to avoid returning to Iraq? 3--Is Aponte truly fearful or an opportunist? and (most importantly IMO) 4--Why are we still sentencing our troops to death in Iraq? BRING THEM HOME NOW!!!
hjo4 Jul 22, 2007 6:16 AM
Mr.Aponte's actions should be a lesson to all young people.Don't volunteer for anything unless you're prepared to finish it.Yes we're in a invasion in Iraq,but that's were he was ordered to go and fight.His feelings, concerns, wishes and wants are not relevant here,He goes proudly where hes ordered to and do what he's told to the best of his ability.Sadly this was his choice, (for his own reasons) now he must face the consequences of his actions.Anyone knows the military and the mafia has the same principal, once you join, you're in for life.The question becomes either punk out or risk your life on a bullshit tip that you have no control over.Kinda tough choice.
anjta Jul 22, 2007 7:04 AM
This guy is shell-shocked, but not enouugh to be declared unfit for compbat. Some of his peers probably hate his guts, and his lateral thinking, and they are disguising it as patriotism for the bandwagon effect.
loisdom Jul 22, 2007 7:30 AM
To pomeranianzdad Your statement "bring the troops home now!!" provides no answer to two questions: How to achieve victory? How to prevent a full scale genocide of millions Iraqis currently supporting our efforts? My assumption is that you care about neither. People like you completely vaccuous and clueless to life on the ground in Iraq can make these Sheehan like statements in the safety of their living rooms, but the death and carnage is for someone else to worry about. You would have us turn Iraq over to sub human animals that think nothing of strapping bombs to the retarded, the infantile, unwilling women, children. You may be a citizen, but an American; this is in question.
Paulie Walnuts Jul 22, 2007 7:41 AM
If this had happened during World War II, instead of during the current "politically correct" era, this cowardly punk would have faced a firing squad!!!
pluto24 Jul 22, 2007 8:09 AM
I served our country back in 1980-1986 in the US Army (3 yrs active//3 yrs inactive) & by the Grace of God I didn't experience war. Jonathan Aponte did, as well as thousands of other soldiers whom I do not know but feel their pain. I feel that there was other ways for Pvt Aponte to express his feelings about going back to Iraq. I understand that the military has counseling for soldiers with this fear of going back to war (hey, who can blame them, right?) but the one thing that I did know when I enlisted back then was that no matter what your assigned job classification is, bottom line: you're a soldier. In hiring someone to shoot him in the leg so that he doesn't have to go back was, whether he realized it or not, a disrespect to ALL of our soldier in arms. Some will understand, but the majority will feel betrayed by his actions. A betrayal that will not be welcomed if they do deploy him back to Iraq. Forgive him: YES! for GOD is about forgiveness! But Pvt Aponte has to ante u
mizonglohong Jul 22, 2007 8:12 AM
I wouldn't want to loose my life for this war or any one elses either. WWII was one thing, and the Iraq war is another. We were fighting against a dictator, not for one.
bklynmom Jul 22, 2007 10:40 AM
The world needs to take a look at this desparate measure as a cry that there's seriously something wrong with the war and the treatment that the soldiers receive when they return. Look at the soldier who went AWOL after he sought assistance for mental health treatment. It appears that the military is not providing the proper mental health treatment for soldiers before or after they go to a war zone. Yes, a mental health assessment should be done before the soldier goes to war, giving him/her a detailed description, which can include a video, of what they will be experiencing firsthand in an active war zone. Instead of chastising Aponte, use his actions as a starting point to create adequate mental health services for those suffering from post traumatic stress. We're not out there fighting with them. We only hear of the reports, and see very limited pictures. Their reality is being there, seeing comrades die, having to kill insurgents, smelling burning flesh, and other gory details.
This summer I went to the Six Flags Great Adventure and saw the US Marines had a recruiting station set up inside the park. They made it look fun and exciting to join the Marines, as if it was a ride. I wouldn't have believed it had I not seen it for myself.
KILLEEN, Tex. - Bronx soldier Jonathan Aponte doesn't know yet if he'll be punished by his superiors, but he's already taking lumps from his peers.
Since returning to his base, the 20-year-old private has felt the scorn of other soldiers - through stares and words - who are appalled that he hired someone to shoot him in the leg to avoid returning to Iraq.
"Some guys have been giving me a hard time, here and there," Aponte told the Daily News at Fort Hood, where he arrived Thursday after being ordered back by the U.S. Army. "It's random people," he said. "Not really anyone I know. They've been saying, 'You're a piece of s---.' I'm trying to take it lightly."
For the young G.I., the timing of his return could not have been worse. The day he got to Texas, officials announced two Fort Hood soldiers - Pfc. Ron Joshua, 19, and Pfc. Brandon Bobb, 20 - had been killed by a bomb.
The news left few soldiers sympathetic to Aponte's struggle.
"I wouldn't want him next to me in combat - not a chicken like that," said Dee Xiong, 22, an infantryman set to redeploy in December after serving 10 months in Iraq.
"What he did was wrong," said a 20-year-old Army mechanic who served a year in Iraq. "You know what you sign up for and you just have to finish it out."
Even residents and merchants near the base frowned on Aponte's actions, though they expressed a sincere appreciation for the difficulty of his job.
"He should have went about it in a different way," said Nancy Watts, 50, a manager at an Arby's. "There are people who can help you," said Watts, whose daughter is a retired Army medic. "I feel sorry for him that he felt he had to do something so drastic."
But one soldier confided he has thought about faking an injury to get out of service - saying the burden of war can leave the mind and body totally warped.
"I understand where he's coming," said a 20-year-old grunt from Amarillo, Tex., who asked not to be named. "There's a lot of stress and no downtime. People will do desperate things to stay with their families."
Aponte had served 10 months in Iraq when he returned to the Bronx on a two-week leave in June. He was scheduled to be redeployed on July 9. Instead of reporting for duty that day, he arranged to be shot in the knee by an acquaintance in exchange for $500, he has admitted.
He said he was so psychologically damaged by his time in Baghdad he could not return for another eight months, and that his scheme was hatched out of desperation.
Aponte, his wife and the alleged triggerman, have been charged with conspiracy and face serious jail time.
tel-ghobashy@nydailynews.com
And the following are a few comments from some daily news readers.
DaveP Jul 22, 2007 1:20 AM
His fellow soldiers are dispensing their own brand of justice, quite apart from whatever the Army does to him. This should not have had to happen, besides the fact that we shouldn't be there. This is what happens when there is an all volunteer military. You go to war with what you have- not what you wish you had. Not too many people would volunteer when they know they will be getting shot at. Being re-deployed into combat three and four times is mind boggling. In a way, I don't blame the guy, but it is what it is. The problem is that there isn't anyone else left to send. If Mexico invaded us there would be nobody to fight them. Forget Korea, they would have to fend for themselves.
Pomeranianzdad Jul 22, 2007 5:55 AM
I can understand why fellow soldiers feel anger towards Aponte, but I don't condone their actions. The questions that remain unanswered include 1--What has or hasn't the military offered Aponte in terms of support? 2--What would lead a person to have himself maimed to avoid returning to Iraq? 3--Is Aponte truly fearful or an opportunist? and (most importantly IMO) 4--Why are we still sentencing our troops to death in Iraq? BRING THEM HOME NOW!!!
hjo4 Jul 22, 2007 6:16 AM
Mr.Aponte's actions should be a lesson to all young people.Don't volunteer for anything unless you're prepared to finish it.Yes we're in a invasion in Iraq,but that's were he was ordered to go and fight.His feelings, concerns, wishes and wants are not relevant here,He goes proudly where hes ordered to and do what he's told to the best of his ability.Sadly this was his choice, (for his own reasons) now he must face the consequences of his actions.Anyone knows the military and the mafia has the same principal, once you join, you're in for life.The question becomes either punk out or risk your life on a bullshit tip that you have no control over.Kinda tough choice.
anjta Jul 22, 2007 7:04 AM
This guy is shell-shocked, but not enouugh to be declared unfit for compbat. Some of his peers probably hate his guts, and his lateral thinking, and they are disguising it as patriotism for the bandwagon effect.
loisdom Jul 22, 2007 7:30 AM
To pomeranianzdad Your statement "bring the troops home now!!" provides no answer to two questions: How to achieve victory? How to prevent a full scale genocide of millions Iraqis currently supporting our efforts? My assumption is that you care about neither. People like you completely vaccuous and clueless to life on the ground in Iraq can make these Sheehan like statements in the safety of their living rooms, but the death and carnage is for someone else to worry about. You would have us turn Iraq over to sub human animals that think nothing of strapping bombs to the retarded, the infantile, unwilling women, children. You may be a citizen, but an American; this is in question.
Paulie Walnuts Jul 22, 2007 7:41 AM
If this had happened during World War II, instead of during the current "politically correct" era, this cowardly punk would have faced a firing squad!!!
pluto24 Jul 22, 2007 8:09 AM
I served our country back in 1980-1986 in the US Army (3 yrs active//3 yrs inactive) & by the Grace of God I didn't experience war. Jonathan Aponte did, as well as thousands of other soldiers whom I do not know but feel their pain. I feel that there was other ways for Pvt Aponte to express his feelings about going back to Iraq. I understand that the military has counseling for soldiers with this fear of going back to war (hey, who can blame them, right?) but the one thing that I did know when I enlisted back then was that no matter what your assigned job classification is, bottom line: you're a soldier. In hiring someone to shoot him in the leg so that he doesn't have to go back was, whether he realized it or not, a disrespect to ALL of our soldier in arms. Some will understand, but the majority will feel betrayed by his actions. A betrayal that will not be welcomed if they do deploy him back to Iraq. Forgive him: YES! for GOD is about forgiveness! But Pvt Aponte has to ante u
mizonglohong Jul 22, 2007 8:12 AM
I wouldn't want to loose my life for this war or any one elses either. WWII was one thing, and the Iraq war is another. We were fighting against a dictator, not for one.
bklynmom Jul 22, 2007 10:40 AM
The world needs to take a look at this desparate measure as a cry that there's seriously something wrong with the war and the treatment that the soldiers receive when they return. Look at the soldier who went AWOL after he sought assistance for mental health treatment. It appears that the military is not providing the proper mental health treatment for soldiers before or after they go to a war zone. Yes, a mental health assessment should be done before the soldier goes to war, giving him/her a detailed description, which can include a video, of what they will be experiencing firsthand in an active war zone. Instead of chastising Aponte, use his actions as a starting point to create adequate mental health services for those suffering from post traumatic stress. We're not out there fighting with them. We only hear of the reports, and see very limited pictures. Their reality is being there, seeing comrades die, having to kill insurgents, smelling burning flesh, and other gory details.
This summer I went to the Six Flags Great Adventure and saw the US Marines had a recruiting station set up inside the park. They made it look fun and exciting to join the Marines, as if it was a ride. I wouldn't have believed it had I not seen it for myself.
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